What Not to Say to A Pregnant Woman

Well today I'm 25 weeks pregnant. Time is just flying by!! 15 weeks to go!

I thought I'd give some advice today on things not to say to a pregnant woman. Honestly I thought being pregnant I wasn't going to have to worry too much about body image stuff. You're pregnant for goodness sakes, I thought I would enjoy this time of helping my baby grow and not worry too much about weight and such. Well was I wrong! I don't know if everyone who has been pregnant deals with this but I have.

When I was first pregnant it would amaze me that people (complete strangers that is) would ask me when I was due. And this was before we started telling people. It would make me so upset because I thought people shouldn't be able to tell I'm pregnant yet. I guess thankfully I was pregnant, but still. Thanks Bed, Bath, and Beyond clerk!

Especially if you don't know someone, unless it was really obvious, you don't ask them if they are pregnant or when they are due!

Then once I started showing more, these were the type questions I would get from complete strangers or maybe semi acquaintances.

"Ohh when are you due honey?" - stranger  
"Oh in October!"- me
(then I'd get a funny look from them)
"Oh I thought you were due like next month." - stranger

REALLY?

Or I love this one...

"Ohh when are you due?" -stranger
"Oh in October." -me
"Oh is it twins?" -stranger
"Nope, just one." - me

Again, really?

I just don't understand people. And don't they realize that you're really hurting a pregnant woman's self esteem. Literally as soon as I start to feel comfortable about my belly size, someone will say something like that to me.

But, I do know in the back of my head I have nothing to worry about. You see, my husband is 6'5'' and I'm 5'2''. I have a small torso, so really the only place for the baby to go is OUT. AND I'm having a boy! (I've heard you carry boys out front more and girls you gain weight all over!) AND at my 20 week appointment, Carter was already ahead of schedule in size. So thanks to my tall husband and to the fact I'm having a boy, this baby is probably going to be quite large when he's born. AND I'm right where I should be on weight gain during my pregnancy. But of course I don't have time to explain that to every person that says stupid stuff to me and insinuates that I have a pretty big belly for 25 weeks.

My point for this, is really just think before you speak to a pregnant woman. We are already emotional enough, we don't need people to add fuel to the fire. Honestly sometimes I want to respond in a not so nice way so they realize what they are saying to me, but I hold back.